Rated M for Mature

Pardon my rant, but this is a subject that been eating at me for several days and I can no longer keep my mouth shut. If you know me, you know how difficult it is for me to not voice my opinion on subjects that matter to me.

Like most people these days, I have a Facebook account and a Twitter account. My Facebook account is filled with family and friends and some people I have met along my journey there. I usually keep my statuses and comments pretty "clean". Sure, there is an occasional sexual innuendo, or an "Fbomb" used here and there, (it IS my favorite word after all) but overall I know who's reading and I keep that in mind.

Twitter, on the other hand, is whole different story. If my Facebook is PG-13, well, then my Twitter is NC-17. It's my place to be myself. I don't concern myself with my followers. You chose to follow me. If you did, it's probably because you read one of my tweets and either 1. thought it was funny, 2. know we have several people we follow or follow us in common, 3. we have similar interests or 4. you want to share you work (books, movies, music) with me.
See, on Twitter, I can be a PR tornado, slamming through people's timelines, spreading information about the latest and greatest I have seen, heard, or read. I follow several authors, some (ok, a lot) of whom are writers of erotic fiction (what can I say, I'm a horny gal).

Getting back to my point, a lot of what I post on Twitter may not be suitable for everyone. That not only applies to the real conservative, who may gasp at my comment about a sexual position or cringe at a review I post of a sexy erotic novel I just finished. I will "Retweet" a post or picture I find especially hilarious and want to share and it may be sexually explicit or use the work "Fuck". I may use it myself-in fact, I guarantee I will. Several times a day. So if you don't like that shit, I suggest you don't follow. I can't keep track of every person that decides to follow me, but if I happen to catch it, I will check out their little bio sometimes. I have warned a few people I have come across, that  I may not the best choice of a follow. I have blocked any kids under 18. I even got to the point where I posted a "18+ please" disclaimer on my home page.

Now, I feel that I should not have to censor myself for the benefit of others. I am, afterall, a grown woman. I think it's my right to post whatever the hell I choose. Nobody makes someone follow them. I don't ASK people to follow me (well, except for Adam Levine, but that's a separate blog post on it's own).

So what do you think? How do you handle these things? Let me know (or don't). It doesn't matter anyway because I have my opinion and Redheads Know Best.

HEAVEN SENT COVER REVEAL

When author E. Van Lowe decided to do the cover reveal for his upcoming novel, HEAVEN SENT, he wanted a few bloggers to help him spread the word. As a "Fran" (that's friend and fan) of E's work,  I am proud to be one of those participating.

Before I get to the reveal,  I'd like to tell you a bit about the author, E. Van Lowe and the book itself.
For those that don't know, E is a young adult author that has written for award-winning television shows such as The Cosby Show and Even Stevens. His first YA novel was Never Slow Dance With A Zombie and most recently, he has released The Zombie Always Knocks Twice, which is book number one in his HOLLYWEIRD SERIES.

Heaven Sent is book three in the Falling Angels Saga. The first two, Boyfriend From Hell and Earth Angel  have  spent several months on Amazon's top 100 sellers list and both were listed among the Top 10 Children's books on Amazon in March of 2012.


So now without further delay, I present the cover of HEAVEN SENT by E. Van Lowe

Isn't it beautiful? I think so. I also wouldn't feel right if I didn't give credit to Adara Rosalie, who designed the cover as well as the covers for the first two books. Adara has done an outstanding job and has helped E land on several Goodreads lists, including Best Book Covers of 2011 and Favorite Book Covers of 2011.

Here is a look at all three covers:

As an extra special treat, E has let me present you with the back cover blurb, so you can have a little tease of what it's about.


WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN?

Readers who devoured Boyfriend From Hell and Earth Angel will be captivated by the third book in the Falling Angels series.

As Summer break for Glendale Union high begins, heartsick Megan awaits Guy's return while struggling to control her emerging abilities.  Love is in the air, but can the new loves in Megan, Maudrina, Suze and Aunt Jaz's life be trusted?

Nothing is what it seems. Meanwhile, the Satanists are set to hatch their most diabolical scheme ever, and if it comes to pass, Satan may finally win out.

Megan has precious little time to unravel the cryptic message hidden in the riddle she received at the end of Earth Angel. If she doesn't, the life of someone most dear to her will be lost forever and Megan may yet find herself living in HELL.

"The third book in E. Van Lowe's Falling Angels Saga is his most thrilling yet."

HEAVEN SENT is due to be released in December 2012.

Heaven Sent Cover Teaser

I am pleased to announce that tomorrow I will be included in a a group on bloggers that will be revealing the new cover for E.Van Lowe's upcoming book Heaven Sent.
Just to tease you a bit (I am a teaser) I have this little hint at what it looks like.

Enjoy and please comeback tomorrow to see the full cover. I think it's absolutely stunning, as are all the book covers in this series.

Just What ARE The Benefits to being "friends with benefits"

Earlier today, a friend of mine on Facebook posted  about how even though a girl may agree to a "friends with benefits" relationship, she still doesn't want to be treated like a whore.

This, of course, caused many comments on the subject to emerge. One guy said if she expects you to wine and dine her, she's a whore. Another commenter said if she is fine with just sex alone, she is a slut, but if she wants to be given gifts, she's a whore.

Me, being me, had to put my own 2 cents in. I stated that I happened to agree with the original post. If 2 people can mutually agree to a  sex-only situation, there is nothing wrong with it. I have had them in the past but was always treated with respect. One guy I was dating sleeping with was a good friend. We didn't exactly click romantically on a date, so we agreed to be friends. With benefits. But it wasn't just about the sex.

 We would do things all friends do. See a movie, have dinner, hang out. I even checked up on his dog when he was out of town. We just happened to sometimes end up having sex as well. I didn't have a problem with it. We were both single and not sleeping with anyone else. We agreed that if we ever were to sleep with another person, we would tell each other. We even gave each other dating advice.
I didn't have any fantasies that we would some day fall madly in love and neither did he.

He even set me up with one of his good friends and I ended up dating him for a while. Eventually, we both found significant others and the sex ended. After a while, we lost touch. It was fun while it lasted, and I don't feel sad or upset because of it.

One girl read my post and told me that she had tried a similar situation with her EX and it was just like when they were dating. Only thing was they didn't see each other as much. Oh yeah, and he didn't LOVE her. She said that after 1 year and  1/2 he couldn't love her.
Um, sweetie? that is why you don't make this kind of arrangement with an ex. It will never work. You can't have a "fuck buddy" you were once in a relationship with. One of you most likely still has feelings for the other (probably the one who got dumped) and at some point will end up getting hurt. All.Over.Again. Why would you even put yourself through that?

I explained this to her and said how I didn't LOVE this guy and he didn't LOVE me. Not before the friendship and not after. That is the point of the whole thing. To have someone to enjoy the benefits of a sexual relationship and friendship without the complications of a romantic one. She asked if I could "control love". I said that I could not, but I didn't at any point love this guy, nor did I want to. If for some reason I did find myself falling for him, I would have ended it. Not to mention that I would never even try to be "friends with benefits" with any of my exes. Believe me-there would be NO benefits to that.

I guess she didn't get the point. In my situation, I was having a good time with Mr. Right Now, until Mr. Right came along. With her, she was trying to win back her ex. Not the same thing.

So in conclusion, there is nothing wrong with 2 consenting adults having a relationship based solely on sexual activity. If you also are inclined to enjoy dinner, movies, and other friendly adventures, that makes it better. It doesn't make you a whore. If the guy is treating you like a whore, then you shouldn't stay in that situation. Unless, of course, you like being a whore. Then by all means, keep on with it.
The important thing is not to try this with your ex. It will only end in heartache. Unless your ex is really cool and you are still on a talking basis and just on rare occasions get together for a good shag. But if you are thinking the "friends with benefits" thing will get him to take you back, you are wrong. Clearly, if you are broken up, there was a reason and that reason still exists. Don't lower your self esteem only to get your heart broken all over again. This advice can also work for guys.

Trust me because Redheads Know Best.

Join Authors Against Bullying on Friday Oct 19th

By now most everyone knows who Amanda Todd is.

If you have not heard of her, she is the Canadian teen who committed suicide because of bullying. Sadly, we all know that Amanda is not the first teen to end her life due to bullying.

 Several authors have decided it's time to take a stand against bullying. They have gathered as a  group of to participate in AUTHORS AGAINST BULLYING DAY on Friday, October 19th.

 You do not have to be an author to participate, and this event is FREE. All anyone is asking is for you to join in and let the victims of bullying know they are not alone and that THERE IS HOPE. We need to let the world know we are not ok with bullying.

 So please join in and help spread the word. You can post to your Facebook, Twitter, Blog or anywhere else you want. Please read the posts, stories and comments. You can share your own stories if you like.

 October is National Bullying Awareness Month. Let's join together and take a stand against bullying.

 Visit www.mandyroth.com/blog on October 19th, 2012. There will be links to all the authors participating. Below is a list of just some of these amazing people, who are giving their time to this cause.

 Thank You!
 Lisa

 AUTHORS PARTICIPATING (click on name to be taken to their blog)
Mandy M. Roth
Yasmine Galenorn
Lauren Dane
Michelle M. Pillow
Kate Douglas
Shawntelle Madison
Leah Braemel
Aaron Crocco
NJ Walters
Shelli Stevens
Melissa Schroeder
Jaycee Clark
Shawna Thomas
Ella Drake
E.J. Stevens
Ashley Shaw
Jeaniene Frost
Rachel Caine
Kate Rothwell
Jackie Morse Kessler
Jaye Wells
Kate Angell
Melissa Cutler
PT Michelle
Patrice Michelle
Julie Leto
Kaz Mahoney
Cynthia D’Alba
Jesse L. Cairns
TJ Michaels
Jess Haines
Phoebe Conn
Jessa Slade
Kate Davies
Lynne Silver
Taryn Blackthorne
Margaret Daley
Alyssa Day
Aaron Dries
Lisa Whitefern
Rhyannon Byrd
Carly Phillips
Leslie Kelly
Janelle Denison
Graylin Fox
Lee McKenzie
Barbara Winkes
Harmony Evans
Mary Eason
Ann Aguirre
Lucy Monroe
Nikki Duncan
Kerry Schafer
Ruth Frances Long

Some Like It Hot

I have always been a fan of erotica romance, but since I read Fifty Shades Of Grey, I have a renewed interest in the genre. Here a few of the titles steaming up my Kindle Fire.

HOLLYWOOD SPANK by SHOSHANNA EVERS

When Andrea Langley takes a job as personal assistant to hot action hero, Mark Cannon, she finds out the beloved movie star has some kinky habits in the bedroom. She decides this would be the perfect opportunity to write an expose' on him and finally get promoted from secretary to reporter at the tabloid she works for.

What Andrea didn't expect is that she would start falling for her dominant boss and must face the decision to either tell Mark the truth or keep her secret cover. Either way, Andrea could end up losing more than her job. She could end up losing the man is she falling in love with.

Hollywood Spanked is more than just an erotic romance. Sure it has some pretty hot BDSM scenes, but it also has a great storyline. It kept me reading with anticpation. I couldn't wait to find out if mark owuld find out Andrea's secret and if so, where that would leave  them in their relationship.

Shoshanna Evers has once again mixed the perfect blend of eroticism and romance to keep readers wanting more.



THE WINGMAN CHRONICLES by JAMES HOLEVA

Ok, I'll be honest. I had not heard of James "The Wingman" Holeva until several weeks ago when he started following me on Twitter, plugging this very book and telling dirty jokes. I decided to check out the link to the book's Amazon page and was intrigued.
Now this is not exactly what most people who refer to as erotic romance, but I included it because I really enjoyed it and besides, It's my blog, so my choice.

James Holeva is a comedian, writer and actor who has an uncanny ability to charm the panties off of just about any woman. He's good-oh, he's good. I have seen his flirty banter with the ladies on Twitter and Facebook and even will admit that I have been taken in by his good looks and outgoing personality. Obviously I had to buy his book. (See? It worked.)

The Wingman Chronicles is a semi-autobiographical account of the many sexual encounters Holeva has had with women in just about anyplace. Hotels, bathroom stalls, cars, even his own grandfather's funeral. No place is off-limits.

I wasn't sure what to expect from this book but found myself laughing one minute and getting turned on the next. At one point I had to put my Kindle down just to catch my breath.

James can be crude at times (ok, most times) but he is honest and entertaining. I feel like I even saw a softer side of him near the end.

Filled with down and dirty tales that will entertain men and women alike, The Wingman Chronicles is a sexy, funny read that will keep you entertained and wanting more.





THE QUICKIE by KITTY FINE

Although this hot little story definitely fits it's title, it was still enjoyable on a day where I needed something to get me through a rough morning.

A short story about two high school seniors who cut class to go off for a "quickie", what it lacked in length, kit fully compensated for in content.

Pick it up while it's free-there's nothing to lose and only pleasure to be gained. After all, most times it's not the size but the content that really matters.

All of the above are available to download on Amazon.com and The Wingman Chronicles is now also available in paperback as well.

6 SURE-FIRE WAYS TO KEEP YOUR MAN SATISFIED*

Ok, so now that I have your attention, I'll let you in on a secret. I really don't know 6 sure-fire ways to keep a man satisfied. I may know 2 or 3. At best I know 2 that will keep him satisfied on a temporary basis and 1 that will satisfy his immediate needs. I definitely know a few that will send him running in the wrong direction. I do not, however, know any that will keep him forever.

I am not sure anyone really does, yet here we are, nearly four months away from the year 2013 and I am still seeing articles telling us how to get a man, please a man, keep a man.

Are we as women, so desperate to find a soul mate that we are still relying on these types of articles to us get there?

Here is a thought- how about being ourselves? Is it wrong to want to be accepted for the women we are?   I am in no way saying that finding a love match is easy and we should all be laying about waiting for Mr Right to come knocking on our doors.

Obviously, we have to put some effort into finding "The One".  I am simply stating that it does not need to be a research project.

I recently read an online article that said women should learn to speak a man's "love language" and then when we knew exactly what it was that kept him happy and were able to make our actions fit his needs, we could then be assured he would be  satisfied.
That after all, we girls aren't as perfect as he thought on that first date, therefore, we need to make sure he is willing to accept us now that our true selves are revealed.

See, my point is, if we were just honest and not tried to fit an "image" of what we think men want, then maybe-just maybe, once we were in a relationship, we wouldn't have to work so hard to keep him around.

I don't believe that any one woman-or man for that matter- should have to take quizzes and listen to the advice provided by so-called "experts" on the subject so  that we can keep a man as if he were a caged animal. Why in the world would we want a man that was only staying with us because of who he BELIEVED us to be and not because of who we actually are? Aren't we the ones who are always complaining that guys aren't honest with US? So really, is it fair that we come up with an elaborate scheme to snag and bag a man? I don't think so.

  Now I am not about to turn around and try to teach anyone the skills of dating, but I have done my own personal research (and by research, I mean gone on lots of dates) and I have come to my own conclusions on the subject. Now remember, these are MY formulas and may not apply to everyone.

First, you need a strong heart.  Let's face it, you are going to encounter some guys that are just plain jerks. They will make you think they have the qualities you are looking for in a partner and then turn around and say "HAHA! GOTCHA! I was just pretending to like horror movies all this time so you would sleep with me". (yes, I have had that happen to me)
 Personally, I want a guy to be himself, too. If we aren't compatible, I am cool with that and we both can move forward. Just because he is not the guy I want to marry, doesn't mean I can't see him at all. I would much prefer a guy be open and honest with me from the start. If a guy says "Hey, I think you are cool and I find you attractive, but I really just want to sleep with you", it is much better than him stringing me along for several dates only to end up confessing he just wanted to get laid.

Another important thing to remember on the search for love is to have fun.  You should enjoy dating. It shouldn't have to be a means to an end. If all you are focused on is finding a husband, you will miss out on a lot of chances to have a good time. I am not saying you should be a slut, but there is nothing wrong with casual dating.

At the end of the day there is no power you can achieve that will make you find, get and keep a man. Nobody is perfect and we all need to just relax and have fun. If we stop trying so hard, we may be surprised at what we find.
The again, what do I know? I'm still single.







* or JUST BE YOURSELF.